STOP SELF-SABOTAGE WITH SELF-AWARENESS (Text)
Let’s think for a moment about what self-sabotage is?
The act of stopping yourself from fully experiencing what you wish,
holding yourself back in a surprising and often brutal way.
In many cases, the damage done is irreversible..
Why would we do that?
How have we created a way to keep ourselves from what we want by our own actions?
(Our human tendency to self-sabotage could even give you an excuse to not read this post- or maybe you will judge it along the way- read it anyway! I assure you we will ride the white dragon after digging the ground!)
I couldn’t find a pill to cure self-sabotage, although I was actively looking for one.
What I can offer instead is one of my best flashlights so it can’t hide from you anymore! You will be grow in your ability to spot the aspect of this attitude (including the very well hidden one). By bringing it into the light, it will definitely lose its negative power to destroy the things you care about the most.
Everything exposed to the light is transmuted into blessings and support.
Let’s remove the veil from that bizarre tendency to prevent what needs to happen from happening.
The characteristics are clearly seen when you observe your life with a lens for finding self-sabotage:
-A destructive impulsive behavior.
-An unseen, unexpected and unpredictable force.
-Like a firebomb, it hits fast and crushes everything it comes across. Uhhh….
-Something that feels as though it is ‘greater’ than you, possessing you, creating an impact whether you wish for it or not.
And so, breathe…
These destructive behaviors are the more obvious forms of self-sabatoge, but there is also passive self-sabotaging: Hiding your light.
-Making sure not to create progress in some areas of your life.
-Keeping confrontation out of your life at all costs.
-Avoiding experiencing your feelings, thoughts, or opinions.
-Insisting on being ignored.
-Waving away the light of attention and care,
Having attention is the way we demonstrate how to be or how not to be.
The project you blocked or the raise you prevented are your alibis. The same is true for secret friends you choose wisely to make sure that you won’t expand, that you do not shine, and that everything stays gray and moderate.
Self-Sabotage is a split between your will and your action.
A significant action can’t follow your will. Instead, it presents an entirely opposing behavior.
Here are some examples:
-Your entire body is present on a romantic date, but still you hear yourself using words that can hurt the person you’re interested in.
-Your efforts are directed to complete a project – and you choose to change a core segment just before the deadline, saddling yourself with a mission impossible.
-Your speech is ready and you manage to hurt your body a day before delivering it.
-You light the cigarette again, eat the extra piece of cake, get intimate with the one that hurt you. No one knows your game better than you.
The inability to gather your active parts to serve YOU indicate that it is the time to renovate your relationship with your fire, your passion, and your motivation.
You want your Action (fire) to follow the Will (direction).
(Some people self-sabotage because they can’t ignite their own fire and they are in need of a source of immediate excitement.)
Be clear about what matters to you,
trust that you deserve it because otherwise you wouldn’t even think of it!
Let go of resentment, bitterness and revenge.
As long those aspects are kept hidden and don’t have the permission to be liberated – they will keep on coming to the surface, and taking over the scene.
Why? Because –
Your shadow, like everything else in this world, is longing to be seen.
Your shadow, like everything else in this world, is attracted to the light.
Instead of taking those shadow aspects personally,
and being ashamed of them while holding them tight,
Self-awareness is the antidote to self-sabotage.
A general overall awareness is challenging and not enough.
Look for awareness of the exact specific part of you that “executes” the negative impact!
Were you speaking? – heal your throat, check your inner dialog.
Did you hurt your leg? – watch your steps, clear your path.
and so on…
Those volcanoes of your inner landscape are the places to put your hands on and the aspect that is longing to ascend.
Those are also the gateways from which your inherent wisdom will spark.
Let them be magical geysers that draw rainbows in your skies, burning fountains of positivity and passion.
“From darkness into light
from ignorance to wisdom.”
P.S. In some way, we can also see the entire life experience, living in the great Maya – as an act of self-sabotage, the separation of the bright white unity. You can also let it sing for you and with you, knowing that this division is for you to experience the greatness of all.
PS.2. I invite you to get honest with your self-awareness in the comments today. Share the ways that self-sabotage is playing out in your life to keep you from the life you want.
Photo credit: @speckfechta Andreas Fidler_ Thank you